Let's go on a date and see if we match!

If you think we might be a good match (or know someone who might be), message me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, email me at [email protected] or like my profile on OKCupid. Or, let me know once we match on a dating app!

Bonjour, Mademoiselle! :) My name is Jacques. I'm actively seeking my future life partner, aiming to connect with a woman who shares similar values. I'm looking for someone compatible with me because love is not enough. I'm eager to explore if we can cultivate our time together into a blossoming long-term relationship.

Now, I know what you're thinking: "Who is this crazy guy, and why is he using this unconventional method to find love?" Well, let me tell you a secret: I'm a master of efficiency. I know this is an uncommon (weird) way of meeting potential partners, and, honestly, I'll likely meet my future wife by asking her out in person or on a dating app, but here's to another opportunity! It's an experiment I'm willing to do to meet someone I truly connect with.

I'm wholeheartedly committed to this chapter of my life, currently meeting a variety of interesting people. Let's not delay - the sooner we can arrange a date, the better!

Summary of who I am

  • 31-year-old currently working to reduce risks from powerful AI as an AI safety researcher. I work for myself.
  • Love playing guitar and singing for fun, martial arts, mentoring people, making friends and talking about AI on Twitter, and experiencing and learning new things.
  • ⚠️ Warning: May try to seduce you with my Canadian French.
  • I'm 5'9", masculine, straight, and monogamous.
  • Living in London. I'm happy to go on an in-person date with anyone in Oxford or Cambridge.
  • I want to have children, so I'm looking for someone who is also excited about becoming a parent. I can't wait to form a little garage band and do martial arts with my future kids!
  • Former radio show host, so I can make some sick playlists!
  • My current favourite song (and well, the lyrics are quite relevant!):
  • Looking to effectively contribute to helping create a world where everyone has a chance to flourish!
  • Striving for greatness. Living as my ideal self.
  • I'm someone who loves fiercely, helps my partner grow, and will go to bat for them.

Summary of who I'm looking for

  • Ideally, between the ages of early 20s to 30.
  • Similar intrinsic values.
  • Excited to have kids in the future.
  • Smart. Enjoys contributing to intellectual conversations.
  • Compassionate toward everyone, not just the people they like.
  • Values grace.
  • Emotionally stable.
  • Ambitious about contributing positively to the world!
  • Good work ethic.
  • Has a strong character while constantly seeking to grow and live a life based on what they truly value.
  • Fun to be around, a ray of sunshine!

About my career

I am currently working to reduce risks from AGI. (Click for more)

If I weren't working on AI Alignment, I'd be working on some other way to ensure we can all live long lives with meaning. I'm mostly working on AI Alignment because I think it's the best way for me to ensure everyone can live a wonderful life across time and space.

Photos of me

What am I looking for in a partner?

My ideal relationship is one where we both help each other grow into our ideal selves we can both admire. Let's see if we’re a fantastic match!

We have similar intrinsic values and a shared vision.

My way of life is very much shaped by a form of Valuism, and I'm looking for a life partner who wants to think through our intrinsic values together. Someone who strives towards their ideal self and wants a partner who does the same.

I'm particularly attracted to women whose life goal is not just happiness. I'm attracted to the kind of woman with bigger goals than herself and to improve the world beyond herself. I'm not interested in building a life with someone who lives their life fully in hedonism.

A strong, graceful, kind woman.

A woman who is compassionate and understanding of others, but also has her own informed opinions about the world and doesn't back down for what she believes in.

Feminine and Elegant

I'm fairly masculine in a relationship, and I tend to be quite attracted to women who have feminine traits like being nurturing, gentleness, warmth, empathy, and tenderness. Of course, I have feminine traits to balance the masculine as well, but I find it attractive when women have them.

There's also a level of elegance that I really love in a woman. There's an elegant way of carrying yourself, how you interact with others, and taking pride in one's appearance that I find really attractive.

I want someone who is supportive but also challenging me to grow.

Someone who makes me reconsider my opinions before our next morning chat over coffee/tea.

I want to be with the kind of person that tells me when I'm falling short of my ideals and gets me to accomplish more than I could ever dream of achieving alone. Of course, I want the kind of person who expects the same from me!

Someone who is at least interested in talking about intellectual topics and doing the most good.

I'm looking for someone with who I can have fun conversations about doing good. I want to talk about entertainment, fitness, and the latest drama too, but I just want to make sure I'm with someone who enjoys talking about more intellectual topics like AI, charities, philosophy, etc.

Stays fit!

As someone who greatly values an active lifestyle, I'm seeking a partner who equally cherishes maintaining their health and physique. Someone who understands that maintaining our bodies through fitness and good eating habits is integral to remaining attractive and vibrant.

More about me!

I'm a big fan of listening to and playing music.

Picture this: sipping your morning brew and reading a book while listening to me play chill guitar songs. :)

Like I said earlier, one of the main reasons I continue to play music now is to jam with my future family!

Fitness and Martial Arts

I'm very much into weightlifting and do some martial arts (BJJ, Muay Thai, and Self-Defense).

"Hey, pretty lady, wanna dance?"

Below is a photo of me dancing with my mom. It's my favourite picture with me in it; look at her beautiful smile :).

And here's a picture of me absolutely tearing it up on the dance floor. If you just start dancing, other people want to join the fun, and then the party really starts. Want to get the party started with me?

Hosting Parties

Ever since I hosted a banquet when I was the President of the Student Council at my university's faculty of science, I've loved hosting parties. Hopefully, we can host some together and cook tasty food for our friends.

Here's the "Turtleneck Party" I hosted, where everyone wore turtlenecks:


I enjoy exploring from time to time.

I enjoy going on hikes and exploring nature from time to time. It's certainly not an every weekend thing for me (so if you're especially outdoorsy, we're likely not a good match), but I'll go once every month or so.

Below is a picture of me at Lake Louise during the year's first snow. The first snow started as soon as I arrived! It was gorgeous.

If you think we might be a good match (or know someone who might be), message me on Twitter, email me at [email protected] or like my profile on OKCupid.